A good heart is something we all have, some people choose to hide that good heart out of fear, rejection and hurt.
Yes, it’s hard to believe that some of the most cold-hearted people have a soft spot and a big heart. We all do, but because of our different experiences and personalities and even our emotional strength, hiding that good heart and vulnerability makes us feel less emotional and detached us from being hurt in some way.
We are human and unfortunately it means that we feel. Whether it is happiness, fear, depression, betrayal, we are emotional beings and there is no way that you can run from that unless you are a man-made robot. That is why us humans put up a wall or several walls to exclude ourselves from as much drama and hurt.
As humans we have had various relationships with different people and there was a different emotional attachment to all of them. Whether it was a friendly, romantic or work-related relationship, there was always a sense of attachment or emotions involved.
Yes, and with those relationships comes restrictions comes responsibility. Allowing someone into your comfort zone, your space and your heart is quite a big step. Of course that would mean that you trust those people and have a certain amount of attachment to them for you to allow them in.
And, as you might know… Not all people and “family” or “friends” have good intentions, unfortunately.
For example, I don’t sit with family when we have gatherings at all. I would greet everyone answer “questions” and find my space in the house or go to some friends to unwind.
That is not because I don’t like them, or that I don’t love them, no not at all.
The reason for that would be that I am basically the only 21 year old and that means that my mindset is way different to theirs , yes I am a young adult but not old enough to sit with older adults talking about “those days”, you know.
So the point here is that people all around us might have different personalities and manner of acting and reacting that will make us think a certain way about them. Yes, we are brought up differently and different experiences.
Remember that you grow on your own time and that you are different to the next person but what you have in common with the next person is a good heart.
Have a great weekend everyone.